Hi Folks!
I'm a big fan of the community here on dev.to, and I love the idea and the potential of this place.
One thing I've noticed is that in ...
For further actions, you may consider blocking this person and/or reporting abuse
Can someone who feels excluded with the context presented above please respond here? I really can't fathom how this is even an issue. I mean, I'm all for inclusivity, but I have never actually met someone who felt excluded because of these "words", just people rallying on their behalf.
Thanks!
The post I link to lists a few articles and also my anecdotal experience of being thanked by people on separate occasions who noticed at different points. That told me that people likely notice.
My understanding is that it's generally uncomfortable for someone underrepresented to say they're uncomfortable.
The post speaks to the fact that this is a minor thing and not some world-changing thing. Just a small change to be more welcoming. If that's not enough to change a phrase, we'll have to agree to disagree. Thanks for considering
I guess that's fair enough.
I'd say this is probably the best site for inclusivity in tech. StackOverflow is damn near militant about excluding anyone not in the inner circle, but you can find all sorts of genders and cultures here.
Though I say this as a ciswoman who exclusively uses "Hey guys" phrasing, so I'm not one to speak to if people care about such phrasings.
Saying folks instead of guys seems super forced in a "hello, fellow kids" kind of way, but switching to hey all doesn't seem like that much of a change if it actually does help someone somewhere feel included.
Reminds me of one of my earliest post where I was "called out" for using fellas which I edited to be inclusive enough.
But seriously, yes, this is probably the most embracing dev community I've been a part of, so I was quite baffled that this is actually an issue.
For the record, I'm not saying "it's an issue here". I'm saying "this seems like a really inclusive community where I can likely find support for us to do even better, even in this one small way."
Because this is a good community, I feel people will say "cool", this could add value, rather than saying "meh we're good enough as-is".
I don't believe in calling people out. It's an experiment, and people are allowed to disagree. My post also makes an explicit point that people using these terms aren't bad people or toxic because they say "you guys".
I agree dev.to is really welcoming, which is a special thing.
I usually just say 'Hi' or 'Hey', not sure we always need another word.
I do see the problem with hey guys though and think it's worth the little effort to fix - it's like the world is default male (he and guys are often used where gender is unknown or mixed), and this is a little way to change it not to be.
I used to be of the type that found things like this a bit pedantic, forced and far-fetched, until I met my daughter's boyfriend, who was a Belgian living in the Netherlands. In the Netherlands we often make jokes about our neighbour country Belgium and we often depict them as dumb. To be fair, Belgians joke about the Dutch being stingy.
Anyway, I always thought that people just joked about Belgians but that no-one really believed it. I was wrong. Very wrong. He told me that a lot of people around him treat him as if he really is dumber than the average guy. His father experienced the same, so that's what opened my eyes. The truth is that he attended VWO at school, which is the highest you can do. And both his father and mother are professor at the university, so you can hardly define them as dumb.
The same is true for the guys/girls debate. If you constantly address your audience with 'guys', girls will start believing they have no place in tech. And we should welcome a mix of people since it makes a group so much more complete. I have worked both in 100% male teams and in mixed teams and group atmosphere in the mixed teams was better in all cases.
Finally, for those who still think this is not needed, if you really think it will not make a difference, then using a more neutral form surely won't hurt, will it?
Thank you for the additional example! That's exactly the kind of thing I'm hoping to improve.
What I find sarcastic is that guys is actually gender neutral(Sauce ), while folks is referring strictly to men.
Read beginning of the post. 😉
I didn't start this experiment to be pedantic. What I am suggesting is that while the dictionary may list a word, there is a different perception of such phrases in public and community spaces, especially those that heavily favor and center men. And that by doing something that's almost zero effort, we can make others feel more comfortable (again, based on my anecdotal experience and others noticing and responding positively).
Everything refers to men if you bend your mind hard enough lmao.
Probably time isn't the only thing that's relative.
Nice post!
Up until last year I always used "Hey, guys!", "What's up guys?" etc bc that's what I was raised doing. I personally never found it excluding and it has never bothered me bc every time I used it or someone else did it was always to refer everyone in the room.
However, after joining the online tech community I came across others that felt differently. Regardless of how I felt about it I decided it couldn't hurt to try switching to use more neutral terms like all, everyone, etc. I took some talks I wrote and changed them to use different words. I also now always try to avoid it in blog posts and to be cognizant of it in email(these are hardest! Sorry when I trip up) and other communications. I still often will start an email with hey guys delete it and then rewrite it.
One benefit to changing it up I have found is that I believe you often sound better and more professional when using a term besides guys bc, as I said, guys when I was growing up was slang for everyone. Using less slang always makes things sound better in my opinion. 😊
Thanks for article Sean!
I literally come across people all the time that feel excluded by this - nevermind my wife who has struggled a lot trying to be in tech. Some might even tell you that it would be more correct to say they don't feel "included" as they often know it's not meant to exclude but there's just that twitch, that slight feeling and reminder that it's not quite right.
A lot of people won't speak up because there is often (if not always) a stronger than necessary backlash by some over the use of a single word that to men is largely insignificant. It's emotionally taxing and costly for them to have to keep asking and reminding everyone that they aren't, strictly speaking, one of the "guys".
Also it's fine to forget, but you would be amazed at the world of difference it makes to a lot of people and the fact you try.
You can definitely find people (especially those that aren't strictly men) all over the internet who definitely that aren't comfortable with "guys". I imagine there are more eloquent people than me who can make the case as well.
You may live in a geographic location in which literally no one cares. I don't know where most everyone is from on dev.to but I hear this on occasion in the U.S.A. What's important to realize is that the it's a big country and it's not the same everywhere. Even more so when you engage with a tech community online because suddenly your reach is global.
Even the name dev.to, literally "dev together", suggests more than just "guys".
Thank you Sean, this is really nice!
Yeah, we had this whole discussion in the office one day as well. We did the rounds, it turned out something like 3/4 of people thought the term was gender neutral while 1/4 thought it was male, and the split of who thought it was which was independent of gender of the person being asked (i.e., 3/4 of the women also thought it was gender neutral.) I never got around to asking the people at the dictionary what they thought.
I'm basically on the fence. From a purist point of view, I do think it's gender neutral. It may not have originated that way, but in current usage I hear girls saying it to the other girls in their group. But, if 1/4 of people think it isn't gender neutral, and 1/2 of those would be the excluded gender, then maybe that 1/8 of potential readers is enough to want to avoid using it in wording.
Still I think a much better reason to avoid it is just that every time I read "Hey guys," I naturally expect something cringe like "it's ya boy here" to follow.