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Iren Korkishko
Iren Korkishko

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Being a good programmer vs. Having a good health

My husband is an amazing programmer. He now works primarily with Python, but made his way through Ruby, Angular, being extremely interested in Go, Elixir, Vue, and now finishing reading about Clojure. He's quite passionate, and his love for programming makes him sit in front of his PC 24/7.
And I can't do anything about it. I tried to convince him being more physically active, but everything he likes to do is to code.
I understand this, I do care for programming, I write about it, but I can't stand the impact coding makes on his health. Eyes, nerves, spine, stomach, head. He thinks too much and can't get a good sleep.
Probably, I should insist on splitting the time for activities and work/hobby, but every time it's harder and harder to get him distracted from a laptop without a quarrel.
I don't want him to stop programming (because I really admire his skills and passion), but I want him to be healthy.

Did you have a situation similar to mine? What did you do for your body not to suffer from being a passionate programmer?

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Daniel

At the end of the day health should be our number 1 priority. Only when it is gone do we really miss it and from the sounds of it your husband is going to be a very unhealthy man as he ages. It is imperative that he works out and gets exercise otherwise your later years are just going to be miserable.

Personally I work out 2x per day (weights at lunch, boxing in the evening) I appreciate this is not sustainable for everyone but there is basically no excuse for not spending a few hours a week to improve your quality of life.

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Lud

Make appointments for him at the gym. Put it on his calendar, turn off the WiFi 10min before the appointment. I hate that, but it works on me.

He's probably doing a lot of reading. Google (the verb :D) health stuff on his phone regularly, so he will get these articles suggested along with all the programming related ones. He'll hopefully develope a sense for his health.

Do some sports yourself and let him know how good you feel about it.

He can be lucky, to have someone to take so much care; health is really important, and sitting is killing you (as well as sugary drinks, replace his Coke and RedBull with green tea or Puh Er tea).

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Iren Korkishko

Oh, he loves Cola so much! I hate when he drinks it :) And about turning off the WiFi - that is too risky, because he hates when he's forced to do something (and the negotiations do not help). Stubborn man! But I once conferred him to make make some yoga at home. He tried, he liked, but soon he forgot his intend, and we turned to the beginning point...

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Rudolf Olah

What helped me get off of Coca-Cola was switching from Coke to Diet Coke and then to Coke Zero and then to water. It's so addictive that for some people only a progressive way of getting rid of it will work. That worked for me and I really do not miss the taste of Coke.

I also used Loop - Habit Tracker to keep track of how many days in a row I did not drink a Coke. Having a visible track record is very important as you start to want to avoid breaking the chain by keeping up the habit.

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Lud

Maybe you can agree on one no-computer/internet day per week, e.g. Sundays. Or an internet-fasting for one weekend every month. I have the feeling, that programming is addictive, thus there will always be a pain if you can't do it for a day or two, but one can un-learn that addiction.

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Henrik Wirth

@Neil
Just listened through all of it. Some great advices for all developers or in general for all people who like to obsess about their work in there.

I can relate to a lot of things you are talking about and for me a good balance-creator is travel, sports and community. I love programming though, so I always need to make sure I don't end up in an obsession loop and force myself out here and there. Also for me it always helps, to take some time before starting to work, and try to think about my intrinsic motivation about my upcoming tasks.

@Iren
I really hope, that you can give your husband the right support. Reaching out the way you do is already a great step you do. I hope, he will listen to all the input given here and understands, that by doing so, he is just feeding into being a more productive developer and a more balanced person in the end.

<3

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Robin Palotai

Here's what works for me:

I always carry a notebook (as in pen & paper) with me, so I can record any programming ideas. Even if I won't record any (and most of the time I don't), it gives me comfort that I could if I wanted.

A bit less often I pack in a laptop. Again, I'm not likely to use it during a trip, but having it gives the sense of easy reach again.

A visit to nerdy social events (programming language group, for example) is always a great excuse to go out as well.

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Iren Korkishko

Thanks! That might works. Especially I love the idea to encourage him to participate to programming camps and conferences.

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Alex Escalante

I understand that you are worried about his physical health. Of course it's super important. But maybe you need to worry first about his mental state. The symptoms you describe depict somebody who is just trying too hard. He needs to understand that balance is a very important discipline to learn. Balance is everything. May I suggest some good talk or maybe even counseling?

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Iren Korkishko

I do understand the need to take care of his mental health, I do. And we even tried once. I hope to talk him out, and then to talk him to a specialist, who might be more convincing then I am.

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Jen

If he insists on staying at his desk, it would be a good idea to make it as ergonomic as possible (although, it would probably keep him at his desk even longer). Ergonomic chairs, sit/stand desks will prevent damage the neck/spine/shoulders. If he wears glasses, blue filter lenses would help if he doesn’t do any front end/colour critical work. Maybe an under desk “bike” or treadmill.

If he’s up to it, schedule in a no-excuses weekly walk (other activities available) for you both. He’ll know it’s coming so he can wrap up his code/learning. He can always continue after if he really wants 😓

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Iren Korkishko

He's having an ergonomic chair and table (and special glasses). But it doesn't help. I think to suggest him at least to try working standing? What do you think?

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Jen

For sure. 15-30 mins per hour standing should help with the issues around sitting around all day. I have a foam pad to stand on so my feet don’t get sore. I know people to have gotten balance boards to burn a couple calories as they stand

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Iren Korkishko

Thanks! I hope we'll try this way soon. At least, this is the smallest step that might be having a good impact.

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Alan Solitar

For people who live really sedentary lives, it's much harder to get them to go the gym. I was like this previously.

What I've done is make it very easy and convenient for myself to get in quick bursts of exercise.

For example, I keep a pair of weights next to my desk. I also, because I work remotely, have an exercise mat permanently rolled out on my floor. Whenever I see the mat, it sends me a subtle signal that I should do some exercise.

Because I have the tools in front of me, it's very easy for me to just do five minutes of bicep curls or of you sets of push ups and crunches.

In fact, this was kind of a gateway for me. After about 6 months of doing this, I started craving more exercise and do in fact go to the gym regularly.

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Iren Korkishko

This is a good advise, Alan! Thanks so much!

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Keith Gomoll

It is so important to stop and smell the roses, invest in some nice bikes and hit the trails, maybe a weekend off the grid camping. I found a Sunday soccer club to join that keeps me moving and social with other professionals in my field.

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mlaj

I've found that changing tasks that needs to be done into a game works surprisingly well.

I can be in the form of an app, stickers on a sheet, excel file... List what needs to be done (gym, chores, etc...) and assign rewards and bonuses to each.
Make sure there is a list to complete, since we humans like to see progress visually.

At the most extreme case you could even reward computer time for each task completed.

The list doesn't need to be long, it just needs to exists. You can also take part into this activity too! Don't forget to split the list into smaller tasks when needed.

Good luck!

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Iren Korkishko

Thank for the advise, mlaj! But unfortunately, small tasks are taken as a waste of time and he doesn't like when it's something he is forced to do.

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Lucas Almeida Aguiar

Find something he finds interesting.

There are lots of interesting things, like Airsoft (I personally love it) or medieval fight. Workout without any fun tends to be boring, especially for someone who's not used exercise.

Talk with him about it and show interest in join with him.

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Iren Korkishko

Well, we both love PS and Nintendo. And animals. And programming. I'd like him to visit more conferences (at least this is a kind of activity too). So I'll try to get him involved in the live of the community.