Hindsight is 20/20, so what's the point if you don't share it with the world? Here's a few things I've been thinking about recently that I wish I c...
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To add a mix of your experiences and my own,
My biggest learning moment was:
Everyone has their own method of communicating, Looks past how someone is behaving/talking/dressing. Rather look at how their information can help you. Sometimes a person can be rude af, however if their knowledge is spot on, find a way to deal with it or invest time on why they are like that.
Since in the end it's YOU who is achieving something, not them.
Also... i aimed to make a much shorter comment, i blame you! nice article <3
This is a great reply to supplement the post 💪🕺
Good article. And I agree, at least partially, with all your points :)
The wierd thing is, that probably even hearing those advices at the beginning of your career, won't make you believe in them completely :D
Sometimes you just need to experience those things and learn them the hard way. Also had some quite rough disappointments at the beginning of my developer careers but... now I'm glad it happened at the beginning :) When I got back on my feet I realized it just made me stronger and better prepared for next chellanges :)
Anyway :) Always good to read some advices and see things from someone else perspective :) Thanks for sharing :)
I couldn't agree more with this.
People usually read/see what they want to see.
Unless someone experience the pain, brain might not learn the lesson.
I had a few fights with HR in different companies when it came to highlighting poor management of the team. I almost got the full brunt of being made a scapegoat in these situation because I’m a rebel and a true believer that someone should stand up to protect the team (I can’t help it, I always speak up). It’s part of my hearing loss which it has affected most of my life fighting against discrimination. I’m still standing and learning.
Fantastic insights. I have been in HR hell in my past as well. And after being laid off I learned the hard lesson of #5.
I too came into my career from a place of trust and respect. And was shocked when I learned how underhanded and devious the world of work can be. Unfortunately you must always look out for yourself. And as Windsinger below points out - document everything
Also, as an older worker in the tech industry I can't say how important #4 is. For most first world folks - life will be long. If you can avoid the pain of unhappy situations - DO IT. Anxiety is not something you want to mess around with. It can lead to all sorts of health issues down the road and shorten your life.
Thank you so much for this article. I hope many read it and take the advice
On both sides of the relationship, I need to do this way more often. So many great things in my career have come from these moments, but I don't do this nearly enough still.
Hey Kim, been following for a while and this really rings the bell, I've been struggling to learn everything to become a developer... And still not really sure in what 😅(mobile, automation, cloud), besides knowing good practices and trying to push a bit more everyday it really feels overwhelming, Im still a student btw and while I was reading your post I had a relieve, kinda odd 😅, have a great day and keep it up (~°-°)~
You still have time to figure it out! Just keep navigating towards the things you like to do. The rest will follow 🎉
Wow, spot on... Are you me or am I you? Thanks for sharing. I pretty much have or am still experiencing all of the 5 things you wrote about. The only one that isn't identical is #1, but I am being cautious because just like you said, as much as HR seem like they're there to help, they work for the company at the end of the day. Again, thank you for sharing. It's comforting to know that these feelings and experiences aren't unique to me.
That’s exactly why I share! 🎉
Hey Kim. Your last tip really hits home with me. Before becoming a developer-in-training, I really struggled with not being able to control my career. It always felt like I had to just do my job and not ask questions.
I never thought I had to fight for what I needed. There was a lot of unhappiness. I'm glad I got out and decided to train as a developer and thanks for writing this post. It has shed some light on what I should do once I'm out of training.
I like the second point the most: No one knows everything.
It saddens me to see the trouble we put each other go through. This is why I love dev.to, this community should grow more and more so we finally understand each other and understand our common problems and fix them.
You are right, Kim, we need to share it all with the world!
This is a realistic look at the tech industry. It would be nice if everyone were there to help and look out for each other. But reality is that many coworkers see you as a competitor and act accordingly. And at the same time, how could you blame them because everyone else treats everyone else the same way. Thanks, Kim.
If you ever do find a way to tell this to your past self, CC baby-me in.
Hence, I am a full-time independent consultant and mentor.
This is identical to my past experience. I ran into all of these @ MSFT. For a moment, I thought maybe you worked there. :D
Another point is to focus on your personal relationships. Whatever feature team you work on or product that you release is pointless in the grand scheme of things. I often see posts like, "I'm so happy to be a part of this talented team. This is the feature that we shipped.". Really, it doesn't matter.
Often companies will lead you to believe that your work is important and it is making a difference. Unless your work is DIRECTLY saving lives, it is not that important. It is just a job. There's no point working longer than 7-8 hours.
The first point is so relevant to me at the moment! I had to learn it the hard way, but at least I learned it sooner rather than later. Thanks for sharing these tips Kim!
Thanks for sharing, Kim. A lot of this resonates with me but in particular, "Life is too short to be miserable" is one that I took way too long to appreciate.
Yep, ..aham..yes...aham...yep...pretty much.
As for the coffee, a talk is always great, and it will natural evolve to their both common interests, and unicorns are born!!
This is a good list. I don't really remember who I was 40 years ago when I was starting out, but these things are definitely among the ones that would have helped.
Ah #1 HR -- recently had to learn this the hard way
Excellent first read after being away from the community for a while, thanks Kim.
Welcome back !
Great one.
Always remember:
I recently joined a company with helpful teammates, till now didn't faced any difficulty. So as a fresher in this industry your post was really helpful, thanks.
Thanks.